When I was in high school I loved watching the TV show Friends.
During one memorable episode, Rachel breaks the news to her father that she's pregnant with Ross's baby. Her dad expects a forthcoming wedding, but she lies to him by saying that Ross refuses to marry her because she's now "damaged goods."
At the time I thought the scene was hilarious. And the phrase "damaged goods" apparently stayed with me some 14 years later.
Throughout this 90 day blogging challenge I've thought about this phrase a lot. Though it has taken on a less comical connotation since Friends, it fits perfectly in the experience of the common job hunter.
If you've ever struggled to land a job you can't help but feel the repercussions of frequent rejection. As each month of unemployment passes you start to doubt your abilities, lose confidence in your approach and wonder, "What's wrong with me?"
You, in essence, start to feel like damaged goods.
This is tragic. When it comes to taking the time to share what you, as a human being, have to offer an organization the last thing you need to feel is unvalued. Yet the recruiting process of most companies is designed to do exactly that. The system coldly maintains an iron wall between hiring manager and job candidate preventing both from having real and meaningful discussions. When most companies ignore candidates or send them only form letters they're essentially saying that people don't matter.
But people do matter.
Not just the chosen people in the final stages of the interview process and not just the existing employees of a company, but all people matter. When executives that run companies put systems in place to reflect this truism then they're positively contributing to society.
I've been on the job hunt long enough to not allow the rejection to get the best of me. If you've been reading this blogging challenge since DAY 1 then you know this hasn't been so easy on many days. But the struggle has also given me unexpected gifts. Ironically, I've grown to be more self-confident, resilient and resourceful.
These qualities hardly make me damaged goods.
My name is Viola Minicozzi and I’m a HR professional looking to land my dream job in Phoenix, AZ. From December 1, 2015 through March 1, 2016, I’ve committed to blogging everyday on Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter about my progress and a host of other career related topics along the way.
Join me on the journey. #90DaysToMyDreamJob